Derek's story: finding the way back to himself

Derek's story: finding the way back to himself

When Derek phoned his local carers' centre, it was to share the heart-breaking news that his partner had sadly passed away. He explained that he no longer saw himself as a carer. The centre reassured him that support was still available to him in the months ahead, as he navigated immense grief and the huge changes in his life.

Derek’s caring role had been intensive and around the clock. While he had always put his partner first, this often meant his own health and wellbeing were pushed aside. During conversations with staff, the centre gently reminded him that despite the loss, he was still entitled to a break from the many years of continuous care he had provided. They recognised how much he had given of himself, and how difficult it had been for him to think about his own needs during that time.

As Derek talked, he spoke fondly about how much he used to enjoy getting out, seeing new places, and having moments of lightness and entertainment. These memories brought him genuine joy. A bus tour came up as something he had always loved, but he was clear that he didn’t want to go alone. With support from the centre, and using the Time to Live microgrant, Derek decided to take the tour with a family member.

What began as a small, gentle step turned into an experience that helped Derek breathe again, reminding him that he too deserves care, rest, and moments of joy as he moves forward.

Find out more about Time to Live here.