Graeme's story: back to the oche

Graeme's story: back to the oche

Graeme looks after his adult son, who lives with cerebral palsy, and his wife, who has mobility challenges. His caring role is constant, and while the family has established a good daily routine, some days can feel particularly hectic and demanding.

As Graeme has grown older, the physical and emotional demands of caring have become more noticeable. Rising transport costs and the complexities of travelling with his son, ensuring medication is managed and all needs are met, have made getting out and about increasingly difficult. As a result, opportunities for a break from daily routines and responsibilities are limited.

Although there is some support in place, Graeme shared with his Carer Support Worker that he missed attending local darts nights, something he had always enjoyed. It was not just the activity itself, but the social connection and sense of normality it gave him. Together, they explored how he could bring some of that enjoyment back into his life, in a way that worked around his caring responsibilities. Graeme decided to use a Time to Live microgrant to purchase a dartboard and a set of darts, which he set up in his garage.

This small change has made a meaningful difference.

“It’s been great for me to get out into the garage and practice darts. It also means I’m not far away and can hear my son and my wife if they need me. They both love films, so sometimes when they’re watching one, I can nip out and play some darts which I love.”

The garage has become a space for Graeme to relax while remaining close and available. It has also opened new opportunities for connection.

“Sometimes I take my son out with me, and we have a good chat while we’re there. As a bonus, I’m sharpening up my skills and getting better. The concentrating and counting helps me focus my mind and not think about everything I need to do at home.”

The dartboard has also helped Graeme reconnect socially in a way that fits his circumstances.

“An old friend joins me sometimes for a coffee on a Friday and we get a great game going. I’m still close by if my wife or son need me.”

For Graeme, having this simple activity at home has brought balance back into his life offering moments of relaxation, connection, and enjoyment without taking him away from his caring role.

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